wanderlust asked:


For about the last 18 months I’ve been living with my parents, who are in their 80s and were just not coping on their own. Previously to that, I’d tried to help them out by just visiting lots without giving up my independence, but it wasn’t enough.

It’s really hard, though - as I don’t own my own home, I had to move in with them (a couple of hundred miles away from where I lived), not vice versa. This meant giving up my job, my friends, the whole big city lifestyle I really enjoyed. As I’m living in their home, I’ve ended up totally compromising to fit in with their daily routine, and I just feel I have no control over how I spend my time any more.

I got a job in their town, but I had to give it up, as I ended up taking so much time off work whenever one of my parents became ill/had a doctor’s appointment/got their pills mixed up etc.

I feel like I’m completely losing my own individuality and personality. Help!

Alex

titaniumlibra22 asked:


My friend cares full-time for her elderly father who has alzheimer’s disease. Her mother who owns the home they live in is a real estate agent. Business has been very slow and they are in danger of losing their house. Is it possible my friend can be paid by the government for her services?
This is in California by the way..
Alameda county..

Noah

nashoba asked:


They want to hire a caregiver, and I want to be the one.
I don’t mean THEM pay me, I heard there is a government agency that will. That’s what I want to know.
OK, let’s get this straight…I already take care of them FOR FREE. So go from there.

Eugene

Paul asked:


Back in the generation of my parents and grandparents, it seemed like it was common for people to bring their older parents home to live their final days with them. That seems to not happen so much anymore (at least in my extended family). Why do you think this is happening (if you agree), and do you think this is a good or bad?

Landon

follyclose asked:


i adore my elderly lady who is 83 but she has got this awful bunion and it is causing her so much pain and suffering.we have tried everything(yes that includes the family) any suggestions.iam her carer.please help

Conchita

L=]] asked:


my mom has been a housewife for years and she wants to get a part-time job. she wants to do something like taking care of a local elder for a few hours, then maybe moving on to the next elder. she does not want to bathe them and change diapers and whatnot…
she doesn’t know where to start

any help?
like a home attendant

Steven

HATE IS GOOD asked:


It also seems that society also takes care of those young and well. So what should we do with people who CAN, but DONT? Should we cut them off social benefits or do we keep paying thm to do nothing? Again, we must take care of elderly, sick and infants. I am also talking specifically about welfare, food stamps and housing vouchers. What % do you think are taking advantage of the system?

Michelle

ms. d asked:


An elderly lady that I am good friends with has requested that I take care of her for 4 days. This will be 24 hour a day care. I am unsure of what my rate of pay should be. any ideas?

Kayla

Lauren C asked:


for our growing elderly population and why?

Maria