Feb
11
2008
Is it unreasonable for someone caring for an elderly relative have one day a week to themself?
Melissa asked:
I am talking about non emergency things like grocery shopping, etc.
my grandfather is temporarily unable to drive..he wants only my mom to take him for a drive every day, or take him grocery shopping, or any other place he needs to go. She has a VERY painful frozen shoulder condition…she told him she needs tomorow for herself, he “said no you cant have a day for yourself EVERY week, you have to be flexible, I might want to go somewhere…..” she quickly left to avoid an argument.Last weekend he called first thing Saturday morning demanding a ride somewhere.She was in so much pain she was in tears…she told him”I am in terrible pain right now” He answered”Ok, can you pick me up in a half hour?” He didnt even NOTICE that she crying. The whole family is getting tired of his self centeredness, even though it comes and goes. He can be really sweet one minute and like this the next.
Trent
I am talking about non emergency things like grocery shopping, etc.
my grandfather is temporarily unable to drive..he wants only my mom to take him for a drive every day, or take him grocery shopping, or any other place he needs to go. She has a VERY painful frozen shoulder condition…she told him she needs tomorow for herself, he “said no you cant have a day for yourself EVERY week, you have to be flexible, I might want to go somewhere…..” she quickly left to avoid an argument.Last weekend he called first thing Saturday morning demanding a ride somewhere.She was in so much pain she was in tears…she told him”I am in terrible pain right now” He answered”Ok, can you pick me up in a half hour?” He didnt even NOTICE that she crying. The whole family is getting tired of his self centeredness, even though it comes and goes. He can be really sweet one minute and like this the next.
Trent
By Aurora Blue, February 11, 2008 @ 1:30 pm
no, sugar, it’s not unreasonable…find some1 u trust 2 spell u…u need ur time 2…
By btab12, February 11, 2008 @ 9:31 pm
Oh no, god no. Taking care of an elderly person can be VERY stressful, the carer needs a day to themselves to relax and to unwind. someone else can take over the job whilst theyre having a break. totally reasonable =]
By Kitt, February 12, 2008 @ 2:22 pm
The caregiver has also got to take care of themselves hope you are able to take.
For you are able to and mentally.
By Chuck Norris, February 13, 2008 @ 11:50 pm
no its not everybidy deserves a break
By sharing_s_caring, February 16, 2008 @ 4:13 pm
It is not unreasonable, as a matter of fact it is probably essential for you own mental and physical well being.
No ONE person should be caring for someone 24/7.
You shouldn’t even be on call those kind of hours.
Mental strain on caregivers can be brutal.
Why else do you think hospitals, nursing homes, hospice etc have rotating shifts and staff?
Anyone getting paid for providing care gets time off; why should caring for a relative be any different?
By jon_mac_usa, February 19, 2008 @ 9:16 pm
If you are a primary care giver, It is healthy to have some time off to yourself.
By free_angel, February 21, 2008 @ 7:56 pm
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The caregiver deserves more than just one day week off.