wanderlust asked:


For about the last 18 months I’ve been living with my parents, who are in their 80s and were just not coping on their own. Previously to that, I’d tried to help them out by just visiting lots without giving up my independence, but it wasn’t enough.

It’s really hard, though - as I don’t own my own home, I had to move in with them (a couple of hundred miles away from where I lived), not vice versa. This meant giving up my job, my friends, the whole big city lifestyle I really enjoyed. As I’m living in their home, I’ve ended up totally compromising to fit in with their daily routine, and I just feel I have no control over how I spend my time any more.

I got a job in their town, but I had to give it up, as I ended up taking so much time off work whenever one of my parents became ill/had a doctor’s appointment/got their pills mixed up etc.

I feel like I’m completely losing my own individuality and personality. Help!

Alex