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The Biggest Problems With Caring for Your Elderly Parents

Christain Cullen asked:

It’s the weekend and time to make the call to your mother back home. But when she answers, her voice is slurred and she’s talking about things that don’t make sense.
Something is wrong.

Strokes can happen at any time. A myriad of medical conditions can happen at any time in men and women over a certain age.

Your mother has suddenly gotten old and you realize the clock has ticked to the time that comes to many of us. It is now she who needs looking after not you.
It is a role reversal that can create headaches, and be a shock to the system.
You can make the job easier by thinking ahead and discussing the options with your parents while they are still in sound mind. This not only helps with planning, but also lets them know that you care and are thinking about their welfare.

At the very least, you can have contact numbers on hand for elderly service providers for when the crisis comes, particularly if you live a long car ride or plane trip away. Know their doctors’ names and have a copy of their medicare numbers, if they have them.
Exchange phone numbers with one of their neighbors for emergencies and make sure you have a set of keys for their home.

Keep a list of their medication, including dosage. This includes non-prescription drugs as well as prescription drugs, as there can be side effects when drugs interact.
Once the shock wears its way out of your system, if it ever does, there are not just emotional, but financial and practical matters to consider.

Where are their important documents, like wills, kept? Someone should be made enduring power of attorney to handle financial and legal matters. All paperwork such as bank statements, records of mortgage or rent, insurance policies, taxation, benefits and welfare, should be in order.

Caring for the elderly is tough, and with life expectancy rising, the chances you will be faced with this dilemma are growing. In fact, as the population ages, caring for the elderly parents while working is set to become one of the biggest challenges facing people all over the world.

What do you do?

If they are no longer capable of looking after themselves, you can move them into your own home, but what about your spouse and children? How will they react? Do you have the space? Are you equipped to look after someone who cannot look after themselves? You may have to consider wheelchair access, and other alterations to your home to make life easier for your parent.

Perhaps the parent doesn’t want to live with you. Maybe they will refuse to leave their own home, where they may have lived all their life, despite what the Doctor orders.
They could be vulnerable if left living on their own though, so keep a close eye on them, and find out about local home care agencies. You could investigate Meals- on-Wheels, transport options, and assisted living. You may be surprised at the community resources that are available.

There could be conflict. Involve siblings in discussions, if you have any, and their husbands or wives.

Share the burden.

There’s a nursing home, or retirement village, but costs can spiral and if you are not well-off then it can be a struggle. Fees are often not included in national health services. And arrangements care can take weeks, if not months.

Will you have to take time off work? Can you take time off work?

There is a mountain of things to consider.

What’s likely to hit hardest s the emotional aspect of seeing a once active and proud parent frail, and in some cases, incapacitated?

Even a slow decline can come as a jolt.

Looking after elderly parents can be a stressful period of your life, an anxious period. And it can arrive suddenly.


Caring For the Elderly Using Video Monitors

Ann Lindsey asked:

Adult children are using a new approach for caring for their elderly parents who are staying with them. They may be recovering from surgery or an illness and need some assistance from time to time. By using a baby video monitor in their room to keep a watchful eye on them they are able to know when they need their help. With a video monitor they are able to see and hear their love one as well.

Baby video monitors can be such a great help for parents. Of course they are most widely used for monitoring a baby when the parent is unable to be in their room. And you can also keep a watchful eye on them when they are sleeping at night. But now they can do double duty making it such a versatile tool. Using a video monitor is helpful to watch your baby, your older child and now very useful for helping to care for elder parents who are ill and need you. Using a video monitor to monitor your sick and elderly family member you will be able to carry on with your household tasks and activities. This gives you peace of mind while accomplishing your tasks.

There are many options to choose from when deciding on which video monitor is right for your needs. Monitors with multiple channels of nine hundred MHZ will help to avoid interference from cell phones, scanners and wireless phones. You will have less static with a clearer signal. An on and off switch with a light indicator that lets you know when your battery is running low is a great feature. This allows you to change the batteries before they go dead. They can come with portable receivers so you can carry it around the house with you from room to room.

Some even have belt clips. Automatic infrared night vision is an option of baby video monitors allowing you to see at night. There are monitors that are capable of scanning the room which is a great feature for safety. Baby video monitors have become a useful and helpful tool in the family home.


Caring at Home For the Elderly Long Term

Fergal J Tully asked:

Caring at home for the elderly is a very important function as part of the overall health service all over the world. However it does put a huge burden on the home situation when it comes to looking after elderly parents or relatives. This burden can come in two ways one is the mental burden of looking after somebody every single day and having to do the same thing every single day; the other one is financial. Even if a parent or relative is not in the home care situation they are probably in a nursing home which has to be paid for. Having a relative in a nursing home can be very costly and as the recession deepens and more and more people lose their jobs it is getting harder for people to support their parents either at home or in a nursing home.

I was very taken aback by a show that I listened to on the radio this week where people were ringing up and pouring their hearts out about their own situations. It was a mixture of home carers and families supporting their love ones in a nursing home. People were talking about becoming unemployed and having no income coming in to the house wondering how they were going to live and also how they’re going to continue to pay for nursing home bills. The emotional burden that this was putting on people was enormous and families are really finding it hard to cope. The one sentence that really caught me was when a woman said that she almost wished her parent to die so that burden would be lifted and she could get on with her normal life. The pressure that somebody has to be under in order to say something like that must be enormous and is very hard to understand and also very hard to resolve. Especially where the relative is in a nursing home and the only thing that will resolve the situation is money and where is the money going to come from? Nobody was able to answer that question.

In fact I listened to the show for about two hours and I was glad that people had the chance to publicly raise the issue in the hope that something might be done but what I was disheartened about was the lack of possible solutions support that was aired on the show. There was very little answers to the problems people were having. Should the government step in and look after these people? Unfortunately the government don’t have the funds either.

While it’s not a solution but if there is family support there might be a way to ease the pressure and this could make a huge difference. Without families getting together to do what they can it is almost impossible for one person to take on the burden. I don’t see any other short-term solution to the problem. The one thing that people have more of is time. Because of the recession more people are out of work but also they should have the ability to give their time when in the past they didn’t. Just in the same way as children are being minded in the home a lot more as more people are out of work the same should apply for the week and the vulnerable.


Sharing the Love – Caring For Our Elderly Parents in Our Home

Martha Paulson asked:

One day you realize that mom or dad can no longer live in their own home alone. It seems like yesterday your parents made all the decisions and cared for you. Suddenly, you are faced with caring for them. You want your parent to stay happy and comfortable. together you made the decision not to move them into an assisted living or nursing facility. After discussing living options with your parent, you decide that mom or dad should move in with your family.

This is no easy task. Many choices have to be made. You have to understand that many changes will take place in everyone’s lives. Many changes will take place in your families schedule and living arrangements. No matter how good your relationship is with your parent, living together will at times become uncomfortable and difficult. It can bring on added stress, tension and conflicts.

Rearranging your family household and way of life will not be easy. Staying calm in trying situations is the best thing to do. Separate your emotions from the situation that may be bothering you. Remember this is just as stressful, if not more stressful for mom or dad. Make them feel involved. Let them help, if they can, with easy tasks around the house. Invite neighbors and friends to visit, giving you some time for you. Help them retain their dignity and make them feel comfortable like they did in their own home. Years of their own way of life have just been turned upside down. Now they have to depend on someone else. For years they were independent. Now they need a helping hand. Reaching out and giving them that helping hand means the world to them.

Set up some boundaries. Give everyone their own space. Make sure that everyone has private time. This will help the whole family feel more comfortable. Most important, keep the lines of communication open between you and your parent. By simple communication you can always address issues that arise that may be bothering you or your parent. Retain a sense of humor, or at least try. Always treat each other with respect and love. It is always good to get things in the open instead of keeping it inside.

If mom or dad needs supervision, it may be more difficult on your family. Days may have to be rescheduled to ensure that someone is always home. If you find that you are having a difficult time handling the situation, in-home care services are a good option to assist in the care of a parent. Home care can reduce some of the burden on you and your family. In home care can help you maintain your way of life, your scedule and let you continue to live your live like you used to. Don’t allow yourself to become physically and emotionally depleted. Supplemental in-home care can help families overcome some hurdles when caring for a loved one. In-home care is a more affordable option to a nursing facility as well.

As oppose to assited living or nursing facilities, a loving family home provides the much important social setting our elderly parents need to continue living a healthy, comfortable, joyful way of life. Sharing your home with a parent is the most caring, loving and rewarding experience you will ever have. Even though you may feel crazy, emotional, depressed and angry at times. The great memories you are making will last for the rest of your life.

Elderly people live a healthier and better quality of life when they are surrounded by their family. Grandchildren can spend precious time with grandma or grandpa that can never be replaced. Always remember they are your parent. They are reaching out to you now. They love you very much. Let them continue to share their love with you and your family.


what is the percentage of elderly parents receiving care from their older children?

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chaneyfjs09 asked:

I’m doing a paper on elderly parents and how their own children take care of them? what numbers can you give me about this like what the percentage of only one person out of the family taking care of the elderly family member? please can you give me some good facts?