Feb
11
2008
Is it unreasonable for someone caring for an elderly relative have one day a week to themself?
Melissa asked:
I am talking about non emergency things like grocery shopping, etc.
my grandfather is temporarily unable to drive..he wants only my mom to take him for a drive every day, or take him grocery shopping, or any other place he needs to go. She has a VERY painful frozen shoulder condition…she told him she needs tomorow for herself, he “said no you cant have a day for yourself EVERY week, you have to be flexible, I might want to go somewhere…..” she quickly left to avoid an argument.Last weekend he called first thing Saturday morning demanding a ride somewhere.She was in so much pain she was in tears…she told him”I am in terrible pain right now” He answered”Ok, can you pick me up in a half hour?” He didnt even NOTICE that she crying. The whole family is getting tired of his self centeredness, even though it comes and goes. He can be really sweet one minute and like this the next.
Trent
I am talking about non emergency things like grocery shopping, etc.
my grandfather is temporarily unable to drive..he wants only my mom to take him for a drive every day, or take him grocery shopping, or any other place he needs to go. She has a VERY painful frozen shoulder condition…she told him she needs tomorow for herself, he “said no you cant have a day for yourself EVERY week, you have to be flexible, I might want to go somewhere…..” she quickly left to avoid an argument.Last weekend he called first thing Saturday morning demanding a ride somewhere.She was in so much pain she was in tears…she told him”I am in terrible pain right now” He answered”Ok, can you pick me up in a half hour?” He didnt even NOTICE that she crying. The whole family is getting tired of his self centeredness, even though it comes and goes. He can be really sweet one minute and like this the next.
Trent
